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Gut Punch
So, I’ve been in a non-talking, ‘argument’ state with someone that I HAD considered a close friend. A few months ago we had a bit of a ‘heart-to-heart’ talk and soon after this person decided not to communicate with me anymore. I thought I knew why, but now I’ve recently found out a ‘new’ reason. I put new in quotes because this issue is more than a few years old. The issue has nothing to do with him/her directly, but apparently they have deep feelings about it.
The kicker is that they have a lot of their facts very very wrong. AND, it wasn’t me they told this to, it was a 3rd party.
I’m so furious about this, that as of right now I feel there is no correcting this. At all. It’s really amazing to me that someone I considered so close would do this. It’s truly a ‘wow’ moment – and not in a good way.
Adam, I had a similar/different situation with someone I worked with. She and I were a “team” for two years on a project, and when she left the company, rumors must have been flying that I said something to demean her. I still, to this day (three years later), have no idea what it was. She refused to talk with me, email me, call me. I lost a friend, and just don’t know why. People need to give someone a chance to explain themselves, or to respond to situations, particularly when there is a close relationship. Someone who doesn’t give you the opportunity to do so is missing out.